By Iyore Enadeghe (27-09-2015)
virginity is but, the purpose of perpetually preserving perfect chastity in one who abstain from sexual pleasure. It is the act of been pure and chaste, and not involving in any form of sexual or intimate relationship.
Choosing to remain a virgin until marriage is a respectable personal decision for both sex. There are many good reasons for pledging to wait until marriage to have sex, including protecting your sexual health, preserving the sanctity of sex, and honouring a special commitment to someone who is significant in your life (your spouse). If you have come to a well thought out decision about your virginity this article will help you stay true to your principles.
Be comfortable with your personal decision understand your own reasons for choosing to wait until marriage to have sex, and affirm why those reasons are important to you by writing them down. It may help to post an abridged list on your fridge or desks wall so as you can look at it to remind yourself why you made your decision. Posting the list in personal places that you frequent will make it convenient for you to re-affirm your beliefs in times of doubts and temptation.
Knowing that you are a virgin saves you a lot of stress, including worrying about whether you are pregnant or have an STD, paying for contraceptives, facing the possibility of needing an abortion or being forced to start a family before you are ready. your basis for making your choices could be motivated by anything from practicality to theology. Because it is your body, you are allowed to have whatever justification you would like about your personal choices.
You should make your decision known to people around you, so they can respect your choices. Don’t hide your true self from people around you, or say things in conversations that you do not believe in just to fit in with the group. If others are aware of your beliefs before hand, they won’t be surprised or offended if you express contrasting opinions in a conversation about sex or debauchery. Being a virgin makes you outstanding.
If you have friends who don’t agree with your choices or the people around you, let people know that you are only informing people about your decision so that they can be respectful towards your beliefs; you are not trying to lecture them about how they should live their life or to get their approval.
However it is time to respectfully agree to disagree with people who have made different sexual choices. You may want to discuss your reasons for making your respective choices, and you may even get into a friendly debate questioning each others value. But at the end of the day both you and your friends should realize that each person is allowed to decide whatever they want with their body and that neither party should attempt to convert or condemn the other for their choices.
Virginity is a personal thing and should only be disclosed to people you completely trust. Try to avoid discussing subject with people you are not close to, but if for whatever reason you are forced to disclose your beliefs, don’t be shy about doing so.
Surround yourself only with people who respect your decision. Even though they don’t need to agree with your choice, but they should respect it. Gradually distance yourself from any one who makes you feel insecure about your choice who belittles you for your decision or who constantly engages in activities that you are uncomfortable with, it’s not that they are necessarily bad people, but your life will be better if you are with people who can respect and love you for who you are.
Recognize that many people brag about how many sexual relations they have had, but don’t let that make you inferior. Remember that you have different values from those people, and that the number or frequency of intercourse one engages in is not a universal measure of success.
You should never feel inferior because of their success- you are two different people with contrary values. So it’s possible for you to engage in radically different activities and yet still feel personally accomplished or proud.
Realize you are not alone-many people have made the choice you have made.
So don’t give up hope you will meet friends and potentials romantic partners who feel the same way as you do, so don’t be afraid about being yourself.
Don’t be alone with someone of the opposite sex in situation where sex would be very tempting when passion or sexual tension pervades in an environment, you may hastily make a decision that you will later regret. Make your own life easier by choosing to avoid those situations to begin with when you are in an unclouded mental state.
The most important thing is to make a decision before you are tempted by sex, because if you have not set limits for yourself, then you will do what feels right at the time. That may be a decision that you will regret later.
When you find someone in a situation with someone, who is attempting to pressurize you to do something that you do not want to do, just say No. Do not concern yourself about hurting their feelings, do not worry that they will not want to see you again.
In this kind of situation, worry only about your own feelings and thoughts. Do not ever allow yourself to be talked into doing anything that you do not want to do.
Virginity is the state of a person who has never engaged in sexual intercourse, there are cultural and religious traditions which place special value and significance on this case, especially in the case of unmarried females, who are still intact associated with notion of honour, purity, worth. Like chastity, the concept of virginity has traditionally involved sexual abstinence before marriage and then to engage in sexual acts only with the marriage partner
It is shocking that men will pay so much for someone’s virginity which isn’t even prized so highly anymore. It has become some kind of competition between all these men that they all want to win. Many men wants to marry a virgin because of the perceived and accepted sense of masculinity about being the one to deflower a virgin, another important reason is to ensure the purity of the blood line of the offspring.
It is indeed very intelligent to remain a virgin until marriage. The vast majority of people roaming around with AIDS and other sexually transmitted disease are suffering from these because they could not keep no them selves until marriage.
Do not feel inferior of being a virgin because people are wishing to be in your shoes. Virginity is not a shame but one to uphold, cherish and to be proud of. So don’t lose your virginity cause it is your pride and dignity.